This Blog is usefull of All friends and best friends . U know of all this thought in this site or blog about friendship .....
This Blog is usefull of All friends and best friends . U know of all this thought in this site or blog about friendship .....
Yeah, friends are friends because they can look past your shortfalls. So as another poster said, you shouldn't have to be perfect to have friends. But it does make you paranoid at times. You start to think, "What is wrong with me? Do I talk too much or too little? Am I boring? Am I ugly or strange or intimidating?" You can go over everything in your head a million times and try to be the perfect friend but ultimately I think you just have to accept yourself. As for me, I grew up with a very close friend who was like a brother to me. But when we were about 17 he started hanging with another crowd and got into drugs and alcohol big time and totally blew me off. So I haven't seen him or heard from him for over 6 years. I had many other good friends growing up too. But by about 10th grade in high school, they had all seemed to disappear. Now I have one that I see maybe twice a year and he's moving soon. So for the most part, I have been completely alone for the past 6 years (I am now 24). I'm sure it's just as hard when you're 40. My mom complains about not having friends too sometimes but at least she's always had my dad around. My family is introverted so they don't talk to me unless they need me for something. And when I talk to them, it's like talking to a wall - no response - and I have to follow them around the house just to carry on a conversation. The strange thing is, I am actually a friendly person. People like me at work but when it comes to hanging out, that's another story. Given, I don't drink and act a fool like a lot of people do when they get together. But I can actually carry on a good, intelligent conversation. And I can make people laugh. But honestly, I just don't think I've found the right people to be with. I need to keep trying churches or maybe get involved in sports again. But sometimes it seems like nobody really wants to make a close new friend. In the meantime, I will continue to improve all aspects of myself and try to meet new people in hopes that one day I'll have good friends again like I did when I was younger.
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